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[tobetheone]

[She explains it simply, but his eyes grow wide the longer she talks. This is a take that fully goes against things he thought he understood well.]

I don't understand.

[He doesn't elaborate which part needs more explanation. Maybe all of it does. Why would anyone apologize insincerely? How could he not forgive someone if they're sorry?]

[polydeukes]

[She pauses, trying to figure out the best way to phrase it.]

Sometimes, people don't apologize because they're sorry. They apologize because they think they're supposed to. And once they say they're sorry, they'll get forgiven and they don't actually have to think about what they did anymore.

[It's a matter of social scripts, not sincerity.]

But forgiveness is a lot more complicated than that. It's not something you owe anyone. It's something they have to earn by actually changing their behavior.

[tobetheone]

But... That's not honest.

[Neither side is being genuine in that case. People should say the same things they mean so there's no ambiguities about it.]

[polydeukes]

It's not. But ... it's the way we're programmed. We have these scripts that get us through the world, and people don't always think about how we use them.